Grief, what to do with it?

Before Sandy hook and after, grief was and is, and will be.  My heart continues to break along with human beings all over the world who can only ask 'why, how?' I feel a consensus of numbness and disbelief wherever I go and to whomever I speak.  As human beings we just cannot bring ourselves to believe that something exists in another human being that can bring him, or her, to the point of committing such an act as was committed at Newtown, CT., USA. 

Many discussions have ensued: gun control, mental illness, and of course silly conspiracy theories. But what about grief?  How should we deal with the grief?  "For in much wisdom is much grief: and he  that increaseth knowledge increaseth sorrow." Ecclesiastes 1:18.  The smarter we become as a society, as human beings, the more we let some things slide; go by the wayside.  If we are to have a chance as human beings, just like in any personal relationship, we must face every aspect of that relationship: the good, the bad, and the ugly.  That is the only way the relationship will grow and become beautiful, and cherished.

We must face grief, walk through it and keep going until it no longer engulfs us.  At the same time we cannot forget it.  It becomes not a garish uncomely way for us to present ourselves to the world; but a part of us that is strength, empathy, remembrance, and honor.  We are strong in that we made it through.  We empathize with others who are walking through.  We remember our loss--a child, a loved one.  We honor that loved one. When we do these things, we realize we can make it through.