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Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Inside the profile

Four years ago today, December 15th, 2011, I was inside the profile; but I was not alone. I was in the OR—operating room, undergoing an approximately four to six hour surgery. I was having that final surgery.  A lot of prayers were being sent up for me, in fact my surgeon prayed with my parents and me.  The surgery went well although there were complications during recovery. But I survived those too.

 The last couple of years, my ‘anniversary’ came and went without barely a thought, but somehow this year, today; it is really on my mind. I have decided not to ignore the process and just allow myself to think about it. I am happy to be alive and well; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually now.  And I was fine after the surgery, but then I began to become very sad.  I started to realize I would really never carry a child now that I had that final surgery.  Before the surgery, although I was having a lot of physical problems, I told myself I still had a chance. But the surgery was a finalization.  And that finalization hit me in a delayed reaction kind of way.

I had to eventually visit a psychologist after constantly crying for days and not knowing how to stop it.  He eventually told me that I was grieving a loss, and that was when the light bulb went on for me! I was not allowing myself to grieve because I didn’t know I was grieving. I did not know I could grieve something I never had.  And on top of all of that, I had stopped praying.
Bottom line, I have been on a journey.  And I know millions of women around the world have been on the same or similar journey.

Inside the profile with me, whether I felt it or not at the time, was Jesus. Yes, what I went through was almost unbearable, but I survived.  God was with me, and He knows my end to my beginning and my beginning to my end.  Check out my logo! You will see someone in the profile!  He is always in the profile. 

Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Ethnocentrism, What is that???



Yes, you heard correctly, ethnocentrism.  That word has been rolling around in my head a lot lately, because of the current crisis and issue our country has been having with what to do with the Syrian refugees.

You see, According to Ben Winsor of the Business Insider, http://www.businessinsider.com/the-countries-taking-syrias-refugees-2014-9  Outside of Syria’s neighboring countries, Germany leads the way in accepting refugees.  The United States and Canada are at the bottom of the list in number of refugees accepted into our countries.  Although I understand the inherent fear that non-European countries have of taking in refugees due to historical and present threats to the West.  The fact is however, America has very high-tech ways of vetting people who want to enter our country. I wish I could say that it is simple lack of technology and resources that is keeping us from accepting refugees.  But I believe it is fear, not lack of technology that is keeping us back. 

And this is where ethnocentrism comes in. I first realized there was an official name for the belief that one’s race is better than others, just a few years ago. According to Dictionary.com, the definition of ethnocentrism is ‘...the belief in the inherent superiority of one's own ethnic group or culture. 2. a tendency to view alien groups or cultures from the perspective of one's own.’  To be fair, I believe every race and culture, including the Syrians, probably feels the same way; to varying degrees.  It is normal to feel pride in your heritage. This is why in America we have Black History month, Hispanic Heritage month, and St. Patrick’s Day, to name a few. People like to represent their heritage by hanging miniature flags in their vehicle’s rear view mirror. We like to visit ‘the old country’ every once in a while, and we like to cook and eat the foods of that old country. 

But on the other end of the spectrum, because every issue has a spectrum; are the people who will kill to keep their status quo.  They believe in the separation of races.  They do not believe there should be ‘race-mixing’ of any kind. These people distribute propaganda during their secret meetings, online on their websites, and via public protest.  The key question though, is where we all fall in that spectrum.  Where do the people running for the office of president of the United States fall on the spectrum? Where do voters fall on the spectrum? Where does the ‘average American’ fall on the spectrum? Where do you fall on the spectrum?

I don’t know what the right answer is when it comes to accepting, not accepting, how many to accept, of the Syrian refugees. What I do know, is that these people are human beings. They are babies, children, young adults, and the elderly.  Some of them are ill, and getting worse by the minute.  Many are dying from illnesses brought on by the long walks they take daily, and by exposure to the elements.   
         
All happening while we sit in the comfort of our homes listening to the talking heads and presidential candidates who have been given a national and international platform. Some of them using that platform to disseminate fear. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in national security, I’m all for it, because I NEVER want to wake up to a war zone in my homeland. I love America and all that she stands for. But I can also tell you that I believe we should eliminate emotion which includes fear, and when we do that, we will find a solution. Because as human beings sharing the planet with each other, we cannot look the other way. We have to do something.  And of course doing nothing is doing something. What do you think?

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